Grief in Recovery
This is a post with the question:
is grief part of Recovery?
When I had Depression, I did not experience grief.
There were losses.
But I was absorbed in dealing with the illness.
I scarcely registered the losses,
although I did mention them from time to time.
When the depression began to lessen,
I became aware of the losses.
It was in this period that I began to experience grief.
This was a new emotion.
I had never experienced it before.
It caught me off guard, and I did not have any coping mechanisms.
Over the years, I have tried to adjust.
I became convinced that grief was an essential part of Recovery.
What losses have we experienced?
There is a tendency for friends to leave.
Most people will know how good friends now are absent from our lives.
This is a loss, and we miss those friendships.
There can be other losses.
We may lose time in education, or in the workplace.
Now I understand that grief is part of life.
It can fluctuate,
and I may have good days without grief.
But it has been part of my Recovery.
I try to make time to grieve for losses I have experienced.
But I also try not to ruminate.
I have better skills now.
I find watching a sad movie can help.
We can cry watching the film,
and at the same time release emotions which we could not deal with before.
I have found other tools, like books and art.
I also understand that life is a grieving process for anyone.
We all face losses of some kind, not only the mentally ill.
Many people deal with grief on a daily basis,
and have to try to manage this emotion.
This is part of life,
as we all lose friendships, relationships and
even have to face the death of a loved one.