I will rehearse what I need to do to defeat stigma,..
* Shower, wash my hair, wear nice outfits and make-up.
* Keep the house clean, and painted.
* Remain a lady.
* Never respond to negative comments with anger or hostility or rudeness.
The above list took me years to learn.
It seems simple. But I did not think of those tools.
I begged other people to help me, and to give me tools, but no-one ever did.
Eventually after a long time, I managed to break through and begin to think of things that would help.
I discovered if I wore make-up and looked nice, then a lot of the name-calling stopped.This is because people think that we do not care about ourselves.
I discovered if I worked at house-keeping, this also impressed other people.
They found a dusted, painted, well-maintained home.
The stigma can spread to house-keeping, as other people think that we lie around all day and do not wash up our dishes.
Being a lady,..I use Audrey Hepburn as my model here, and also Grace Kelly.
I look at the photographs to boost my moral.
These ladies would never use bad language or be rude to anyone.
Grace Kelly was raised in a strict household. She always wore gloves, and was perfectly groomed.
This helps to comfort me, as I feel inspired.
If we are angry or hostile, this will only reinforce the stigma.
I try to remember the above points, and to put them into practice.