Sometimes I miss World events, have not caught up with the News.
I live as part of a dysfunctional family, and with the drama at home,
I often miss the news.
I have yearned to be part of a functional family. When I encounter them, I steal ideas.
They spend time together on a Saturday, they do Jigsaws.
The children go to bed at a regular time.
I wonder, what is their secret? What do they know?
I know that people might say, that all families are dysfunctional to some degree, but I feel I have to challenge that assumption. I visited other families, and they seem to drift along, getting things done, with very little drama or anxiety.
They tackle life with a sense of humour, whereas in my family, people tend to be serious, and attempt intellectual, profound statements.
Everything is dramatic.
‘I have to do the dishes,’ is said in a tone worthy of Shakespeare.
I noticed we are different in that way. Other families just do the dishes. They even have a rota, taped to the fridge. They are organised.
Organised, methodical, having a routine,..I admire families who live this way. I think it can really help to get through the week.
I also follow Oprah, who will talk about these things sometimes. She came from a troubled background, and I think she has a good understanding that children need stability at home.
When she does those shows, I try to borrow ideas.
Routine is encouraged, everyone has their chores and duties.